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Ok so this post is extremely long and I put it all together for my blogs Feeling sad page but as I don’t have a huge amount of followers I realize so many people are not seeing this information so I’m posting it here too!

alternatives without harming yourself:

• holding/squeezing ice.

• splashing your face with water.
• getting a rubber band and snapping it against your skin (this could hurt, though it’s better than other ways that people usually choose to self-harm).
• take a hot shower or bath.
• eat something sour. it will take your mind of the urge. (lemon, sour lollies)
• massage where you want to self-harm.
• get a red pen or red paint and draw/paint over where you usually self-harm.

• remind yourself as to why you shouldn’t do it. (scars, harms organs, leave memories etc…)
• describe what you are feeling. (is the urge/pain in your chest, fists, legs, arms, head).

killing yourself will not help. it is not a solution.

you have your whole life ahead of you. you have so many more years that you can accomplish things in.
for example;

• having a family.
• getting married.
• to watch the sun rise.
• to watch the sun set.
• to save someone else’s life.
• finish school.
• get your dream job.
• to laugh.
• to smile.
• to go camping.
• travel to new places.
• to wake up every morning to the person you love.
• friends.
• family.
• to keep that promise you made.
• to accomplish a goal.
• to meet your idol.
• to listen to new music.
• theme parks.
• video games.
• chocolate.
• to be able to look back and say “i made it”.

what you’re going through is temporary.

in case you need to hear this:

• you are loved.
• you are wanted.
• you are needed.
• you are beautiful.
• you are handsome.
• you are important.
• you are not alone.
• you are okay.
• you are strong.
• you are worth it.
• you are smart.
• you are not a failure.
• you are useful.
• you are going to be okay.

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